What advice would you give to a closet gay living in a tiny village?

..Where anyone different became the target of gossip for the next 6 months.





Would you move to a city to become accepted even if it meant moving away from your family?What advice would you give to a closet gay living in a tiny village?
Stay in the closet.What advice would you give to a closet gay living in a tiny village?
If I loved my tiny village, I would take the heat and fess up. 6 months will be over before you know it and at the end you would have a more open life. I predict you will eventually be gratified by how many people feel freer for having the tight structure loosened up a bit. If I am wrong and it turns violently ugly, you will be moving away from your family for something real instead of phantoms.





If you do nothing, nothing will happen. You will continue living a lie. If you move away to protect the lie, you still continue living a lie.
I spent my youth in such a tiny conservative community. You have no other choice than to stay in the closet until you can move to a bigger and more tolerant community. This is unfortunate, but you have no other choice. Small intolerant communities can become a hell for Gays. I speak by experience.


Just wait until you can do your move. In the meantime,


do like me, I had Gay friends in the city and every time I had a chance for, I said to my parents I would be a day off in the city and took the train and spent a nice day with friends I could be truly openly myself without fearing.





Courage!
I think that I would consider the move if it meant that I would be happy and not be living my life undercover, Moving to a differnet location from your family does not mean that you can not stay in touch with them. So many people move away from their families for all different reasons and they still stay together as a family. Now with web cameras, email, cell phones etc. life is easy to still stay so connected with them.
pretty much, why do you need to be around your family everyday if you're over 18? I moved and am still able to talk to them on the phone whenever and see them during holidays. Remember you are less than 5 hours away by plane anywhere in the USA.





i'll give you some inspiration from the great billy joel:


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85sIJcC8z鈥?/a>
Save up enough money to get you by for at least a few months in a bigger, better city, then MOVE THE FCUK OUT! And yes, moving away from the family would be hard, but I did it and trust me, staying is a decision you'll regret a whole lot more.
Personally, if you live in a small town, it's not that wise to go public. your likely to get linched. Most small towns don't look kindly to that kind of thing. Gossip would be the least of the worries.

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